- Why is feminine energy extremely attractive yet mistrusted by both men and women?
- How does the desire for social and economic fairness inadvertently serve to weaken men and harden women in intimacy?
- Why do many men resist marriage even when they are totally in love?
- Why are the five biggest turn-ons for women different than those for men?
- What is the relationship between your ability to express forceful anger and sexual passion?
- How do you transform emotional and sexual wounds into gifts?
- Why is the word “surrender” so offensive to some people and so erotic to others?
- How does one cultivate “masculine presence” and why is it such a gift in intimacy?
- What is the difference between telling your partner “everything” and telling your partner the “truth?”
- What are the spiritual prerequisites for experiencing the ultimate sexual embrace?
- What is the difference between rape and ravishment, or seduction and enchantment?
- Why does our sexual growth often cease at an early age?
- When is it appropriate for intimate partners to honor each other’s boundaries and when is it appropriate to respectfully penetrate them?
- What is the relationship between food and sex?
- Why is it often so difficult for a man to listen to his partner talk about her day?
- What must you risk in order to experience deep sexual union and emotional communion?
- Why does a man driving a car often have such a strong reaction when a woman gives him directions?
- How do men and women use places, pets, drugs, food, and vacations as sexual substitutes?
- Why do most men, but not most women, lose sexual interest when their career is uncertain?
- How can you determine if you will attract a macho man, a “wimp,” or a passionate man; a submissive woman, a “ballbuster,” or a radiant goddess?
- Why is a man’s “mission” usually more important to him than an intimate relationship?
- Why are abusive relationships often so passionate, and balanced relationships often so tepid?
- What do women reveal about their desire to be ravished in love?
- What is the connection between sex and aggression in most men’s minds?
- Why do most couples decide to stay in the “safe zone” of sexuality and spirituality, and what are they missing?
- Why are soap operas like feminine pornography?
- Why is the feminine undervalued in our society?
- Why are many women attracted to “bad” men?
- In what way are beer, TV, and women almost interchangeable to most men?
- What do men and women really want from each other sexually?
- Why is it impossible to grow spiritually without embracing our darkest impulses?
- Why does the repression of our darkest sexual desires create an unhealthy world?
On the Work of David Deida
“There are few categories I know of for an original like David; for his teachings there is no pigeonhole. David is the one western teacher of tantra whose books I read and whom I send students to learn from. He is a bridge-builder between East and West, between ancient and modern wisdom traditions regarding this least understood of all spiritual teachings: the mystery of intimacy as a yoga of transformation, transcendence, and self-realization. The results of true practice, in any tradition, are unmistakable; David Deida demonstrates them.”
“Deida brilliantly lays bare the hidden psychology of feminine and masculine and offers clear instructions for tapping into our deepest core and achieving true harmony through sexual intimacy. His understanding of feminine psychology astounds me.”
“Every once in a while, someone comes along whose work is clearly a next step. Their ideas seem to answer some collective questions hanging out in the culture. Their books and seminars become an underground buzz, and within a period of time their ideas become part of our cultural vernacular. David Deida is such a person. In a time not too far off from now, his ideas will have spread like wildfire. That’s how hungry this society is for what he has to offer.”
“Being able to teach and live integrated sex, relationship, and transcendence is no easy task. It requires immense courage, wisdom, and above all, fearless loving. In Deida, all this gets included in one radical teaching. At last, a teacher who understands sexual polarity and a man’s core desires without compromising or emasculating you with pseudo-psychotherapy, “tantra,” or political correctness. You’ll learn how to open your heart and integrate the need to sleep with every attractive woman you see, deal appropriately with a woman’s emotional chaos, give your gift to the world and lover, and finally transcend the whole lot by including it all.”
“David Deida’s teachings on this central human concern, sexuality, emanate from a deeply trustworthy source. He has undergone his own rigorous training and practice, which manifests in precise, gentle, and thorough teachings. Many spiritual traditions, including Zen, have excluded or marginalized the sexual experience. David’s work fills this gap, and gives us a mature approach for bringing the energetic, emotional, and physical experience of sex into our life and practice. And like Zen, the fruition of David’s work is openness, compassion, and love.”