Description
In a live workshop, David Deida illustrates how spiritual growth leads to different styles of erotic attraction, skillful communication, and sexual communion. He discusses the effortlessness of love and the intentional cultivation of sexual art, including everything from how to abide as free consciousness to how to give oral sex. As the practice of whole-body loving deepens stage by stage, our problems become gifts as our attention is liberated into a playful instrument of ecstasy.
Track 1: Growing In Love’s Duet
- Masculine realization is “I am awareness”
- You grow by not getting lost in events
- Identity with presence grows
- Feminine realization is “I am love”
- Love is consciousness
- How available is your love-consciousness?
- You attract someone with similar depth of love-consciousness
- Drifting consciousness feels painful
- Distraction hurts
- Your thinking hurts your lover
- Your tension attracts a tense lover
- Thinking creates tension
- 1st stage: Attention is on self
- 2nd stage: Attention is on partner
- 3rd stage: Attention is on the art of love’s flow
- Open ended exploration of where does love want to go
Track 2: Beyond Masculine and Feminine
- Rumi displayed feminine enlightenment
- Ramana Maharshi displayed masculine enlightenment
- You are somewhere in this spectrum
Track 3: The Artful Play of Polarity
- 1st stage: “I’ll do what I want”
- 1st stage: Attracts a lover who is equally self-centered
- 2nd stage: “Let’s communicate and compromise”
- 2nd stage: Non-erotic way to work things out
- 3rd stage: “What wants to come through us?’
- 3rd stage: The conscious art of open-ended erotic play
Track 4: Heart-Wisdom, Trauma, and Skill with Men
- Your true wisdom-heart is your 3rd stage
- Your deepest heart can sense untrustworthy men
- Your past trauma also flinches at untrustworthy men
- Developing skill with dangerous situations
Track 5: How to Be Irresistible to a Deep Man
- Masculine partners tell you what to do
- Does he know less than you but is fully present?
- Why do you choose a lover you don’t trust?
- Self-sufficiency is stored in your body
- Why would a trustworthy man want to be with you?
- Do you make him happy to be alive?
- Are you more interesting to him than nothingness?
- Conscious men want your energy
- He wants to behold god’s beauty through you
- The depth of your love’s flow makes him want you
- Your light attracts his consciousness to you
Track 6: Awakening His Presence with Your Pain
- Openness is responsibility
- Sexual promiscuity decreases as you evolve
- His lack of presence hurts you
- You are sexually repulsed by unconsciousness
- To grow, he needs to know when he pains you
- Show, don’t tell, how he hurts you
- Your responsiveness awakens his presence
Track 7: Love Is Effortless, Sex Requires Training
- How do you choose a lover?
- The difference between being happy or skilled
- Love everyone, but choose your lover for art
- Love is effortless, art takes practice
- Sex as art requires training
- Being love takes no time
- Skillful articulation of love takes time
- An untrained body can love but not fuck deeply
Track 8: You’re Serving or You’re Suffering
- How to practice with childhood wounds
- Where are you putting your attention?
- Art requires attention on beauty, not on personal issues
- Instead of holding back waiting, give love now
- Give your gift regardless of how bad you feel
- She feels your pain before you do
- The moment wakes itself up through your relationship
Track 9: Why Practice?
- Align the feminine with your breath
- Practice can be used to manipulate or serve
- 1st stage Practice: to get what you want
- 2nd stage Practice: to help others
- 3rd stage Practice: choiceless art
- Being lived by consciousness
- Your delusions are your lessons
- Work with what you are given
Track 10: Attention is Devotion
- Feel his depth, not your emotional content
- Feel his consciousness, and respond
- Stages of attention and devotion
Track 11: Staying Conscious Through Layers of Ecstasy
- Stages of oral sex
- 1st stage is time to take care of yourself
- 2nd stage is time to share
- 3rd stage is time to commune
- Opening throat and cervix to commune
Track 12: Your Problems Create Your Gifts
- Your gift is developed through your problems
- Consciousness was born to emerge through your body
- The universe is giving you perfect growth
- Apply consciousness to your immediate experience
- Stay with your actual feelings without resistance
- Trust your feminine response
- Orient to consciousness or suffer
- 1st stage: Feel your problems
- 2nd stage: Communicating your problems
- 3rd stage: Orienting to consciousness and responding
- The obstacle is the way
- Love this moment
- Relax with whatever is happening
- Experience everything fully
