Description
Under the surface, subtle energy flows determine how deep your sexual loving goes. In this collection of live talks, David Deida explores the unseen forces behind sexiness and resentment, as well as offering keys to increasing consciousness toward profound lovemaking.
Track 1: Conscious Emotions
- The feminine moves into emotion
- The masculine feels as the space around emotions
- She: feels herself as the currents of energy
- He: rests awareness on awareness
- Juiciness and stillness are both valuable
- Awareness bursting as light is sex
Track 2: Is Your Man a Beautiful Wobbler?
- Women are better men than many men are
- Most men don’t know how or when they cause pain to women
- We all see others easier than we see ourselves
- Women are annoyed by lack of presence
- Why are you so disturbed by your man’s posture?
- She is hurt by his wobble
- Most women have been deprived of their man’s consciousness
- Show your man your pain with compassion
- Hurt is prior to annoyance and anger
- Let your man discover his way
- Women are often more conscious than men
- How you create feminine-identified men
- He needs to feel your radiant surrender to cultivate his direction
- Share the present moment verbally, not the past
- Magnify your feelings so your man can navigate
- Your responsiveness attracts his consciousness
- A beer is more interesting to him than a neutral woman
- He needs to see your loving and vulnerable hurt, not your anger
- He needs your responsiveness
- His choice: beer, zen, or you
Track 3: Soft-bodied Men, Authenticity, and Sexual Reciprocity
- Access your full sexual spectrum
- Relax into your core expression without effort
- Action movies and love stories
- You are attracted to your reciprocal
- Masculine body, feminine mind
- Authentic or fake sexual identity
- Soft bodied men, authentic or fake?
- Layers of protection over true heart
- Shells are attracted to your shells, heart to heart
Track 4: Deep Sexiness is Responsive and Never Enough
- Create safety for heart-surrender
- Create danger for more sexual passion
- Danger is more sexy than safety
- Women seem like spiritual distractions to many men
- Dancing with a conscious man
- Seeing a woman’s body makes most men less conscious
- Sexual practice for men’s awareness
- Your smile makes most men lose consciousness
- For men, your neutral expression is useless
- He drifts, you hurt, you show, he becomes present
- Emotional scar tissue and present wisdom
- Your lover is not your therapist
- Surrounded by men less conscious than you?
- A side effect of evolution is loneliness
- Presence is valuable
- Responsiveness evokes presence
- You earn presence through responsiveness
- Beer is more interesting to him than your neutral-face
- For him, there is nothing to do but be
- You want his consciousness on you and in you
- Fear holds back your love-light
- Your diminished light attracts his diminished consciousness
- You always want more of his presence
- He always wants more of your light
- It’s never enough, so don’t blame your partner
Track 5: Lovemaking as Conscious Dance
- Sexual multidimensionality
- The simplification of real intimacy
- Why don’t you attract conscious men?
- Presence-practice masculinizes the body
- What kind of man will be attracted to your energy?
- Your zen body attracts fun men
- The art of reversing polarity
- The masculine playing partner guides the energy
- Sexual error-correction
- Making love is a spontaneous dance
Track 6: Practicing Presence in the Gargoyle’s Den
- Consciousness relaxes the body
- Presence evokes stillness
- Being consciousness is aloneness
- Love with and without words
- Do you want to do anything?
- Her heart-depth demands your practice
- Her hurt awakens you, if you are ready
- Your presence turns her on like oral sex does
- All men have a limit to their bodily presence
- She can feel your resentment
- Conscious sexual break periods
- She measures your depth of presence
- You can’t control her fullness
- When she wails on your consciousness
- Tantra is an aesthetic choice
- She will test your practice for her pleasure
- The cave is easier than her dragon-threats
- Consciousness aligns her wildness in love
- You are her spine of consciousness
Track 7: How to Bite Your Lover
- 1st stage biting: I need to bite you, so I bite
- 2nd stage biting: I’d like to bite you, may I? Is it ok if I bite you?
- 3rd stage biting: you first tune into lover’s heart, then very, very sensitively, modulate your biting
- 3rd stage requires second by second responsiveness to your lover’s heart
- What music wants to come through your bodies as divine love, despite the trauma of the instruments?
- 1st stage is impulse biting, 2nd stage is care about how it effects partner, 3rd stage is what wants to come through both bodies as art
